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Jan 29, 2020Liked by Jill Filipovic

Thank you for including the voices of Black women and acknowledging the racist system that allows white women to write about rape without considering race.

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Jan 29, 2020Liked by Jill Filipovic

So many women wrote the most amazing thought provoking clear truthful words about Kobe. Thank you for sharing their words as well.

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Jan 29, 2020Liked by Jill Filipovic

As a very soon to be blogger myself,

I'm taking in how you are taking in the huge variety of feedback. You may have steadier nerves than I; I do have many extra years on the planet which may offset a possible deficit in my vagal tone.

As we tended to be, in the beginnings of the Second Wave in the 60s when I was very active, a good deal more aggressive, I'm feeling that pattern needing to grow again, but bigger.

Backlash is a bitch and we very much had our share of it. Some of us just plain got worn down. Our numbers were very much smaller and we adopted the 'rule of two' when interacting with the media so they couldn't pick out this 'star' and that 'star' to break up our strike force.

We felt the full weight of male insecurity striking us from so many angles and pissholes, meeting and confronting us at every turn, that the battlefield was everywhere and anywhere. Our sanctuaries - consciousness raising (CR), women's bookstores, dances, bars - gave us more or less continuous refresh zones. Guerilla warfare kept us aggressive because we had to keep harrassing the enemy. So few men 'got it', tuning to our higher wave length, that I can now marvel at the much greater numbers who have, or maybe I'm easily impressed by any seemingly

greater support from them?

To my point about aggression, its strategies and tactics, I am feeling the lack of that collective strength today, and have been for some time noticing a need for some kind of CR to supply and resupply our collective energies.

I have been part of so many battles that I don't think I could recall every one anymore. The lessons we learned from them may not be sufficiently carrying over to the 4th wave; we old soldiers are dying out, or deeply retired, and been receded into herstorical ignorance.

It looks to me a good time to take up aggression in a new way. Fifty years ago - 2 1/2 generations - we had to dig impossibly deeply to figure out the depths of 5000 'P' years' effects on our own psyches along with taking note of the male ones. The Third Wave kind of coasted or maybe I wasn't paying close enough attention. Now the grandkids can learn from the grandmothers and vice versa. I say 'kids', not only females

now because I have met enough young men who do thoroughly get it.

And still, women need to be in, and take charge of, the way forward,

especially in this heavily prejudiced

era, may it be a short one. It's way beyond time to do major surgery on the male psyche that is their major human failing, with the only cuts barred being those that are truly unkind.

For your possible interest, I'm coming up to 85 years on the planet. I came out of my first closet at age 34, and have unlocked more as my ever curious being feels other confines looking for

keys that fit. Aspie and empath are the latest. I've been nourishing my Reconstructionist Jewish soul.

I read that you're looking for takes on Millenials. My granddaughters

are 30 and 32; I'm kind of taking notice and notes; another conversation. My daughters are Boomers. Not sure I can contribute meaningfully yet. Maybe an ongoing conversation.

Blessings.

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Jan 29, 2020Liked by Jill Filipovic

♥️♥️

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After the rape, try to consider Kobe's life if he'd spent 5-7 years in prison, then reconsider a lifetime of consequences for the victim.

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