Jill, this is a PERFECTLY DISTILLED ESSAY on this tragedy. I would do anything to see a misogynist politician called out over what abortion bans will do to ALL of the children of the post-Dobbs generation! The quality of childhood is not being discussed, just the quantity. “Pro-life” is just pro-poverty and anti-happiness. It’s their means to an end.
They will steal the resources and nurturing attention from existing kids by making people create more. If that means more kids in foster care or living with mentally ill parents or ending up on the streets, all the better to remind others what can happen to them if they or someone in their family has sex. All the better to convince people to keep their daughters on house arrest, out of schools, clubs, sports, performing arts and any other place where sperm bearers exist.
If a woman caring for a child with special needs has the nerve to find comfort with her husband in the night, she had better
remember the toll that her moment of closeness and pleasure could have on her other dependents for the rest of their lives!
I mourn for the girls’ and women’s dreams every day and feel the community doing it with me. Meanwhile, I am endlessly frustrated by the lack of discussions about what it does to siblings and impregnators, how abortion bans sink the talons of homelessness into the bones of poor families, how multiple generations must face new responsibilities and depravations while while being judged and “othered” by the cult of virginity, how some families turn on their own mothers and daughters because it is so scary, how these horrible eventualities loom so large that they provide a rationale for misogyny, intimidation and even violence.
This ripple of suffering leads to pregnant women being abandoned, beaten and killed more often than other women. The turmoil of fathers and partners facing the “embarrassment” of too many kids with holes in their shoes explodes on her.
The desperation that many pregnant people feel is not only for themselves. They are worried about everyone they love. Tragically, their empathy for even leads to some suicides.
The government should be organized against these outcomes, or at least not foist them on millions of us every single year.
The pro-birth movement needs struggling families as living examples who can be used for anti-sex terror campaigns. The idea is that the pain is so deep and its reach is so extensive that we’ll become amenable to misogyny and actively help push females back to the powerlessness of all the millennia that came before. Fear in the women themselves is not enough. It has to be so bad that no one, regardless of gender, age or position is exempt. That’s how enforcers of second-class citizenship are cultivated.
They WANT heavily pregnant girls weeping in school hallways to show everyone else what awaits them if they are impregnated. They want gender-segregated schools and know parents would only agree to substandard educations for their daughters out of unadulterated fear. They want women disrespected, disenfranchised and too exhausted to speak out. They have no qualms about using the suffering of our children to reassert male supremacy within families, communities and our nation.
"They WANT heavily pregnant girls weeping in school hallways to show everyone else what awaits them if they are impregnated. They want gender-segregated schools and know parents would only agree to substandard educations for their daughters out of unadulterated fear. They want women disrespected, disenfranchised and too exhausted to speak out. They have no qualms about using the suffering of our children to reassert male supremacy within families, communities and our nation."
You are a total idiot, jabbering out the CRAP above and making up SHIT to excuse the actions and positions that a woman put herself in. . . but she bears no
Jill has written an elegant piece talking about the suffering of CHILDREN who are living on the edge and then are pushed over it by additional, unplanned siblings. This is about MOTHERS who are denied abortions and cannot protect their existing kids (or other dependents) from the fallout. She is talking about pregnant people losing the jobs, homes and insurance that keep their existing kids safe because of judgmental, nosy people like you who look at pregnancy as a punishment. If her birth control failed, just take food from her kids’ mouths. That’ll show her and - this is key - that’ll show everyone what is in store for them if they have the nerve to have sex.
You have no answer for the main point that entire families are being hurt by abortion bans. Your comment actually proves the point thoroughly. You are pleased to see families so consumed by the fear of economic disaster stemming from their daughters” and sisters” unplanned pregnancies that they find it necessary to oppress the women and girls in their homes. And you don’t care how many kids have to suffer for you to build your culture of intimidation and subjugation, state by ignorant state.
Jill, this is a PERFECTLY DISTILLED ESSAY on this tragedy. I would do anything to see a misogynist politician called out over what abortion bans will do to ALL of the children of the post-Dobbs generation! The quality of childhood is not being discussed, just the quantity. “Pro-life” is just pro-poverty and anti-happiness. It’s their means to an end.
They will steal the resources and nurturing attention from existing kids by making people create more. If that means more kids in foster care or living with mentally ill parents or ending up on the streets, all the better to remind others what can happen to them if they or someone in their family has sex. All the better to convince people to keep their daughters on house arrest, out of schools, clubs, sports, performing arts and any other place where sperm bearers exist.
If a woman caring for a child with special needs has the nerve to find comfort with her husband in the night, she had better
remember the toll that her moment of closeness and pleasure could have on her other dependents for the rest of their lives!
I mourn for the girls’ and women’s dreams every day and feel the community doing it with me. Meanwhile, I am endlessly frustrated by the lack of discussions about what it does to siblings and impregnators, how abortion bans sink the talons of homelessness into the bones of poor families, how multiple generations must face new responsibilities and depravations while while being judged and “othered” by the cult of virginity, how some families turn on their own mothers and daughters because it is so scary, how these horrible eventualities loom so large that they provide a rationale for misogyny, intimidation and even violence.
This ripple of suffering leads to pregnant women being abandoned, beaten and killed more often than other women. The turmoil of fathers and partners facing the “embarrassment” of too many kids with holes in their shoes explodes on her.
The desperation that many pregnant people feel is not only for themselves. They are worried about everyone they love. Tragically, their empathy for even leads to some suicides.
The government should be organized against these outcomes, or at least not foist them on millions of us every single year.
The pro-birth movement needs struggling families as living examples who can be used for anti-sex terror campaigns. The idea is that the pain is so deep and its reach is so extensive that we’ll become amenable to misogyny and actively help push females back to the powerlessness of all the millennia that came before. Fear in the women themselves is not enough. It has to be so bad that no one, regardless of gender, age or position is exempt. That’s how enforcers of second-class citizenship are cultivated.
They WANT heavily pregnant girls weeping in school hallways to show everyone else what awaits them if they are impregnated. They want gender-segregated schools and know parents would only agree to substandard educations for their daughters out of unadulterated fear. They want women disrespected, disenfranchised and too exhausted to speak out. They have no qualms about using the suffering of our children to reassert male supremacy within families, communities and our nation.
Solidarity will defeat misogyny! Stand up now!
"They WANT heavily pregnant girls weeping in school hallways to show everyone else what awaits them if they are impregnated. They want gender-segregated schools and know parents would only agree to substandard educations for their daughters out of unadulterated fear. They want women disrespected, disenfranchised and too exhausted to speak out. They have no qualms about using the suffering of our children to reassert male supremacy within families, communities and our nation."
You are a total idiot, jabbering out the CRAP above and making up SHIT to excuse the actions and positions that a woman put herself in. . . but she bears no
Jill has written an elegant piece talking about the suffering of CHILDREN who are living on the edge and then are pushed over it by additional, unplanned siblings. This is about MOTHERS who are denied abortions and cannot protect their existing kids (or other dependents) from the fallout. She is talking about pregnant people losing the jobs, homes and insurance that keep their existing kids safe because of judgmental, nosy people like you who look at pregnancy as a punishment. If her birth control failed, just take food from her kids’ mouths. That’ll show her and - this is key - that’ll show everyone what is in store for them if they have the nerve to have sex.
You have no answer for the main point that entire families are being hurt by abortion bans. Your comment actually proves the point thoroughly. You are pleased to see families so consumed by the fear of economic disaster stemming from their daughters” and sisters” unplanned pregnancies that they find it necessary to oppress the women and girls in their homes. And you don’t care how many kids have to suffer for you to build your culture of intimidation and subjugation, state by ignorant state.