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What was interesting to me is that a post on this topic was on Facebook, and I posted on it saying that I found it was creepy that a middle aged man would habitually break up with girlfriends who reached their 25th birthday. Not only was I treated to several mansplaining responses telling me that it's normal to see men of DiCaprio's age preferring young women. But that most men feel the same. This horrified me because that would mean that women are considered much less attractive after age 25 and that a rich white guy with a young girl on his arm is still considered OK by our patriarchal culture.

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If it were true that most 50 year old men prefer young women and would date 20 year olds and then dispose of them at 25 like Leo does (if they could only find a 20 year old hottie to go along with their plan) then Leo would not be this puzzling outlier in Hollywood, would he?

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It would be telling to look at high profile men who champion themselves as "civil rights and women's rights' attorneys" and what their preferences are... Those that "represent" women the "loudest" in the fight for visibility, equality, and respect frequently do not represent well in their personal lives. A discussion on what psychologically drives a man to not choose a partner of their own generation and maturity but rather a younger intelligent woman is very helpful for young women who may not understand fully what they may miss as they live through their 20s and early 30s, an important beautiful and challenging time in their life , if they are manipulated and controlled by one who is "wiser" and "established".

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There is nothing to indicate that DiCaprio's paramours are particularly intelligent, which leads me to think an intellectual partnership isn't what he has in mind. He has done some great things to contribute to the study of environmental issues, but his girlfriends seem to not be so inclined.

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I think it's gross when I see a large age gap between the man and the younger woman. I end up seeing the man differently and I have less respect for him. It is really telling about the person in my opinion and speaks volumes. It's icky and shows his lack of his emotional side development. I admire Keanu Reeves who is dating someone his own age and he seems to have better values. He is someone that scored a lot of points in my world for that.

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Thank you for once again brilliantly articulating the thoughts in my head, Jill. This is so dead on.

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I'm wondering if he's actually gay and using this as cover.

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I think Leo has a nice relationship with a clear understanding, then sets them free. Dumping them at 35 would be much worse.

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